We know that rejection really hurts, but they can also inflict damage to our psychological well-being that goes well beyond mere emotional pain. Try recalling an experience in which you felt significant physical pain and your brain pathways will respond, “Meh.” In other words, that memory alone won’t elicit physical pain. But try reliving a painful rejection (actually, don’t—just take my word for it), and you will be flooded with many of the same feelings you had at the time (and your brain will respond much as it did at the time, too). Our brain priorities rejection experiences because we are social animals who live in “tribes…’

This leads to an aspect about rejection we often overlook…We all have a fundamental need to belong to a group. When we get rejected, this need becomes destabilised and the disconnection we feel adds to our emotional pain. Reconnecting with those who love us, or reaching out to members of groups to which we feel strong affinity and who value and accept us, has been found to soothe emotional pain after a rejection. Feeling alone and disconnected after a rejection, however, has an often overlooked impact on our behaviour…We all have a fundamental need to belong to a group. When we get rejected, this need becomes destabilised and the disconnection we feel adds to our emotional pain. Reconnecting with those who love us, or reaching out to members of groups to which we feel strong affinity and who value and accept us, has been found to soothe emotional pain after a rejection. Feeling alone and disconnected after a rejection, however, has an often overlooked impact on our behaviour…We all have a fundamental need to belong to a group. When we get rejected, this need becomes destabilised and the disconnection we feel adds to our emotional pain. Reconnecting with those who love us, or reaching out to members of groups to which we feel strong affinity and who value and accept us, has been found to soothe emotional pain after a rejection. Ever notice how being turned down stops some people from trying again, while others bounce back from rejection stronger than before? Everyone experiences the sting of rejection, but mentally strong people use that pain to grow stronger and become better.

Whether you were excluded from a social engagement, or you were passed up for a promotion, rejection hurts. The way you choose to respond to rejection, however, could determine the entire course of your future.

Now let’s leave all this big terminologies and get real with you.. Rejection is powerful, it can either make you or scar you for life. It varies and each form of rejection has a huge effect on us as humans. You could be a 22 year old girl who gave her virginity to her boyfriend when you were still a teen and now he’s longer interested in you supposedly because he has found something better..Such a turn of events can leave you heartbroken, frustrated, depressed and probably worse just because of you were rejected. Also, it could be the fact that you weren’t offered admission into the university, or you applied for a job and you didn’t get it, or you proposed to the woman of your dreams and she turned you down. As simple and common as these cases are in the society today, believe me the psychological effects can be sometimes devastating. 

A group of brilliant and dedicated individuals have come up with strategies that will change your lives forever and help you through this difficult process and do you know what? We are right at door! 

Help us with your experiences today so we can help those who don’t have the strength to speak. We are HMO(HelpMeOut),an organization that is solely focused on helping and growing our youths today in multiple ways than one.. 

Reach out to us today and let’s break this psychological barrier of rejection amongst other social vices eating up the sweet destinies of our youths today